Jean Matua “From the Heart”
Depression can be hard to understand. It’s human nature to want to find a cause, someone or some thing to blame.
“What does she have to be depressed about?” I’ve heard far too often. “He’s got a good life, why is he depressed?”
This thinking confuses depression for situational sadness. It’s perfectly normal to feel sad at one of life’s many down points: losing a job, a relationship break-up, financial stress, death of a loved one, and more. That’s sadness, and it does get better with time.
True depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, something no one asks for, and something that often doesn’t just fix itself.
When someone chooses to end his or her life, we can’t blame them, and we shouldn’t call them selfish. So often, depression has pushed them down so far that ending the pain seems the only rational solution. Sometimes, once the decision has been made, there can be a sense of relief and happiness that masks the true pain inside.
Friends and family also can’t be held responsible. Far too often, those who suffer the worst become very good at hiding that pain, even from those who are closest to them.
Instead of finding blame, let us all make special efforts to be kind, always. If you do see warning signs, take them seriously and help the person in trouble. Keep in mind that every one of us has private struggles of some kind, things that aren’t shared. Kindness, love, and acceptance can go a long way. But there’s also professional help always available at (800) 273-8255.